Nobody likes making mistakes. That’s obvious, but it goes even deeper than that. People hatre making mistakes. People would go to huge lengths to avoid mistakes, and I’m talking about absurdities here. There are people that would rather do nothing, and thus never make a mistake, then try and allow for that possibility.
Believe me, I know, because I’ve lived it and I see it every day.
I’m a martial arts instructor, and perhaps the hardest part of my job is getting people to see, accept and even welcome mistakes. It sounds counter-intuitive, but it’s the truth. People don’t get better by doing things perfectly. As I often say, if everyone could already do this, then I wouldn’t have a job. My job is to find your mistakes and get rid of them, to make you better. If you hide and don’t allow your mistakes to surface, then you are forever stuck in mediocrity.
There can be no growth without mistakes.
That’s the secret right there. If you never make a mistake, then you never get any better. Continue reading
2015 is nearly over. In two short weeks we will be saying goodbye to this year and hello to the next. This time of year is usually associated with two things, staying up until midnight and failing New Year’s resolutions. The statistics say that something like 50% of all resolutions are broken by Jan 2 and 95% by Jan 11.
Even that ‘first week’ part is pretty generous.
That’s a shame. I support New Year’s resolutions. Heck, I started this blog as a New Year’s resolution. Many people, though, see the above statistics and think ‘why bother?’ If they aren’t going to work, what’s the point? The point, of course, is you trying to improve your life. If you don’t try, you will never change. If you are living the perfect life of your dreams, I suppose that’s not a bad thing. For most of us who aren’t, though, resolutions give us a chance to inch closer to such a life.
The problem isn’t with the resolutions per se, it’s the way we try to make them work. Continue reading